Ep. 156: Love or Loyalty: What Was Your Marriage Built On?
Was your relationship truly built on love, or was it held together by loyalty? This is one of those conversations that’s raw, real, and often uncomfortable, but also incredibly freeing once you start peeling back the layers of truth.
Listen in as I unpack the emotional fog, the self-judgment, and the common cycle of trying to make sense of it all, while showing you a new lens with which to view your situation. If you’ve recently been hit with the news of divorce, or you’ve been silently stuck in a marriage that no longer feels right, this episode is for you.
What You’ll Learn:
- What a loyalty-based relationship really looks like.
- What most divorces mean for men receiving the news.
- How to know if reconciliation is genuine or just familiar.
- My personal story: thinking I was a “good husband” and wondering why it still wasn’t enough.
- How staying “for the kids” can model unhealthy relationship dynamics.
- Tips for moving from rumination to reflection.
Ideas Worth Sharing:
“The best thing you could do for yourself right now is to get really, really granular on your truth, and you might find that you were in a relationship of loyalty rather than a relationship of love.” - Steve Schleupner Share on X “ Tell the truth to yourself, about yourself, and what it is that you want in a relationship.” - Steve Schleupner Share on X “You're gonna be spending the rest of your life with a person. So it's really important to get granular and understand what it is that you want.” - Steve Schleupner Share on X—
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