Ep. 159: When Divorce News Hits: Processing the Pain of an Invisible Ending
Have you just heard the gut-wrenching words “I want a divorce”—and now find yourself overwhelmed and unsure where to turn? For many men, the breakdown begins long before those words are spoken. It’s slow, often invisible, and recognizing that truth is the first step toward healing.
In this episode, I share my own story—the moment I heard the news, the emotional storm that followed, and the quiet disconnection that had been building for years. We’ll talk about why giving yourself space to process is essential, as well as how this painful turning point might become the doorway to unexpected clarity, freedom, and growth.
What You’ll Learn:
- Why emotional disengagement often begins long before divorce is mentioned.
- The emotional rollercoaster that follows hearing “I want a divorce.”
- How fear, anger, shame, and sadness can keep you stuck in painful loops.
- Why giving yourself permission to process the news matters more than quick solutions.
- The hidden costs of misplaced time, energy, and health during divorce.
- How small shifts in awareness can set the stage for real healing.
- Why the painful ending you resist may be the door to your next chapter of freedom.
Ideas Worth Sharing:
“I didn't know it at the time, but I was in a marriage of loyalty, not of love.” - Steve Schleupner Share on X “I found myself in this invisible divorce. I didn't know what it was at the time, but our marriage had gradually transformed in a way that there was a heightened level of disengagement.” - Steve Schleupner Share on X “There's a way for you to embrace what it is that you don't like and what it is that you don't prefer.” - Steve Schleupner Share on X—
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