Ep. 140: Post-Divorce Sex: How to Handle Performance Anxiety and New Relationships with Sexologist Kevin Anthony

After divorce, many men find themselves caught between competing pressures: societal expectations pushing them to “get back out there,” internal doubts about their readiness, and uncertainty about dealing with a dating landscape that’s radically changed. In this episode, I’m joined by certified sexologist Kevin Anthony to talk about how the approach back to intimacy isn’t just about physical connection; it’s about healing, self-discovery, and learning to be vulnerable again.

Tune in as Kevin breaks down the key steps to rebuilding your intimacy, why healing takes time, and how to know when you’re truly ready—regardless of when society says you should be. This episode is a must-listen if you’re ready to take back your power to approach dating and sex from a place of strength and confidence.

What You’ll Learn:

  • How to determine when you’re truly ready to resume sexual activity after divorce.
  • How to deal with performance anxiety and erectile challenges.
  • The realities of porn addiction in post-divorce relationships.
  • How to go about communicating sexual preferences.
  • The importance of building genuine intimacy before sexual connection.
  • Strategies for handling the stress that affects sexual performance.

Ideas Worth Sharing:

“The right time for you to have sex is when you feel like you're ready. Don't force yourself to get out there, but don't hold yourself back, and don't pay attention to what anybody else says is the right time.” – Kevin Anthony Click To Tweet “When we use the word intimacy, a lot of times what people really mean is sex, but intimacy itself is a whole lot more than just sex.” – Kevin Anthony Click To Tweet “Porn teaches you really bad behaviors and actually negatively affects your ability to perform in the bedroom. It can absolutely create erectile dysfunction, and it also creates premature ejaculation.” – Kevin Anthony Click To Tweet

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