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The Importance of a Holistic Divorce Plan for Wellness, Finances, and Family Transition

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Divorce is often perceived as one of the most stressful life events. It’s a period marked by emotional upheaval, financial strain, and significant life changes. Despite its commonality, divorce remains largely unplanned, catching many off guard at a time when they are least prepared to make crucial decisions. However, this is precisely why creating a holistic divorce plan is essential. Such a plan can support physical and mental wellness, manage finances effectively, and ensure a smoother family transition.

The Challenges of Planning During Divorce

Several factors contribute to the difficulty of planning during a divorce. Firstly, individuals are often at their weakest emotionally, making it hard to focus on future planning. Divorce is also unfamiliar territory for most, filled with legal jargon and procedures that can be overwhelming. Additionally, the divorce timeline is typically driven by the courts, leaving little room for personal pacing. Unlike other life transitions that are anticipated and desired, divorce is often abrupt and undesired, leaving individuals scrambling for stability.

Financial resources also play a significant role. Divorce is expensive, and the fear of losing money can hinder the motivation to plan effectively. This financial strain emphasizes the need for a strategic approach that minimizes unnecessary costs and maximizes future benefits.

The Necessity of a Holistic Divorce Plan

Given these challenges, why is a holistic divorce plan so important?

  1. Physical and Mental Wellness: At a time of emotional vulnerability, maintaining physical health through proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise becomes crucial. A well-rounded plan includes routines that support overall wellness, helping individuals stay resilient.
  2. Knowledge and Preparation: Divorce is unfamiliar, but gaining knowledge about the process can empower individuals. Understanding that there are multiple ways to approach divorce, beyond the adversarial litigation model, can open doors to more amicable solutions like mediation or collaborative divorce.
  3. Structured Planning Amidst Imposed Timelines: When faced with imposed schedules, such as court dates, having a clear plan becomes even more critical. Just as one would plan if given notice of a job termination, planning for divorce helps navigate the impending changes more smoothly.
  4. Comprehensive Professional Guidance: Divorce involves various professionals, but not all focus on holistic planning. Attorneys may concentrate on legal aspects, mediators on negotiation windows, and therapists on emotional discovery. A holistic plan integrates these perspectives, ensuring a comprehensive approach to divorce.
  5. Financial Strategy: With tight financial resources, investing in a divorce plan is crucial. Unlike typical expenses, this investment can yield returns by avoiding mistakes and reducing unnecessary costs in time, money, energy, and health.

What Does a Holistic Divorce Plan Look Like?

A holistic divorce plan differs significantly from a standard financial plan. While the latter focuses on the monetary aspects, a holistic plan addresses the emotional and psychological dimensions as well. Here’s an outline of what it might include:

  1. Fitness: Emphasize the importance of physical health through sleep, breath, movement, and diet. These elements form the bedrock of a resilient body and mind.
  2. Fervor: Address the mental strain by fostering earnest engagement with emotions. Techniques such as coaching and self-guided exercises can help manage energy levels and emotional health.
  3. Family: Tailor the plan to family dynamics, including parenting strategies, communication techniques, and preparation for custody discussions. Setting shared aspirations can ease the transition for all family members.
  4. Finances: Beyond basic financial planning, incorporate knowledge of divorce rules and options, settlement negotiations, housing transitions, divorce budgeting, and financial recovery. This comprehensive approach ensures financial stability during and after the divorce process.

Conclusion

A holistic divorce plan is an investment in your future. By avoiding mistakes and eliminating avoidable costs, such a plan can pay for itself both during and after the divorce process. It’s about working from the inside out, ensuring that physical health, mental wellness, financial stability, and family harmony are all addressed. Embracing this comprehensive approach not

The Importance of Comprehensive Divorce Planning

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A divorcee wants to know that things are going to turn out well.  They want to have faith in a bright future for themselves, their children, and even their ex-spouse. Though this is a future vision, the feelings as they move through the initial stages of divorce transition brings forth many challenges as they relate to their physical and mental wellbeing, their ability to navigate complex emotions, their changing family and parenting dynamics, and their settlement decisions around custody, dividing marital property, making a housing transition, and even determine the implications of child and/or spousal support. These complexities highlight the importance of comprehensive divorce planning.

If you think of other large-scale transitions, such as retirement, job change, starting a business, etc., a common theme is proper planning ahead of time because the risk of going into these transitions blind is too great.  However, with a divorce transition there often isn’t a sufficient lead time to adequately plan, and there are many other things to navigate than with the other more familiar transitions.  Couple this with divorce being the only transition requiring a court’s approval, the importance of developing an actionable divorce plan is paramount.

So, why do divorcees skip or even think of divorce planning?  The first major reason is timing.  Unlike a retirement, job change, and other transitions, divorce is not a transition we typically look forward to and with that comes a disincentive to plan.

Second, the professional we turn to guide the divorce proceedings, which is typically an attorney, has a drastically different role than professionals guiding other transitions.   A financial planner or a career coach are governed to a less effect than an attorney is governed.  An attorney’s first allegiance is to the rule of law and when they are hired in a divorce case, they typically are hired to represent a client in a civil lawsuit, following established civil procedure that insn’t conducive to holistic divorce transition.  An attorney’s scope will stay in the confines of the decisions to be made in court and will not extend to other factors impacting the divorce, such as emotions, self-care, parental adjustments, etc.

The third reason is divorcing procedures pull the client’s attention to those areas, financial and family, that need to be decided in order to gain a court’s approval to dissolve the marriage.  As the process moves forward, the divorcee is faced with a seemingly insurmountable list of to-dos that directs their attention from other important parts of the divorce. The extensive “data gathering and discovery” to-do list happens in all forms of divorce – litigation, mediation, and DIY (or pro-se) – because the same information needs to filter up to the court for review.

The last major reason for overlooking divorce planning is a lack of energy. Divorce stress can be intense as one grieves the loss of their family and dreams, while holding onto negative emotions like, anger, guilt, resentment, blame, shame, fear…The concoction brews high stress, which can disrupt sleep, personal care, and energy, and can increase bouts of rumination around both past events and future unknowns.  It’s easy to see why one would not have the energy to plan.  The paradox however, is navigating divorce with no plan, tools, or strategies further impacts energy and dilutes making key decisions with clarity and assurance.

The Primary Culprit

The primary contributor to mistakes and avoidable costs to time, energy, money, and health is jumping into divorce blind.  Court trials, let alone divorce, are unfamiliar territory. When you jump in without a plan you are giving up control.

So, what does a comprehensive divorce plan look like? Divorce is unique to each situation there are common themes that can be addressed so you can have faith in the brighter future you hold in your heart.

Internal Divorce Planning Components

Fitness

Divorce brings some level of health effects, whether it is sleep deprivation, physical ailments, digestion issues, anxiety, diet and weight fluctuations, hyper-tension, or some other physical effect. There needs to be a plan to explore these effects and develop implementable “cheats”, routines, and self-care strategies to improve the overall physiology.

Fervor

As we break the sacred vows and separate from the dreams we carried for our family, we become face-to-face with complex and unfamiliar emotions, and even super intense emotions. Without a plan it is easy to fight, run from, or mask the emotions with various vices.  The fervor portion of the plan creates a safe and healthy framework to face the emotions, look at them with curiosity, and explore the things we are meant to learn.  The emotions are here for a reason.  Break throughs often happen when the reason is discovered.

External Divorce Planning Components

Family

Different perspectives around custody often brings contentiousness.  Rarely, are the child’s perspectives brought into the scenario.  There needs to be a plan to communicate and compare underlying interests supporting custody perspectives. As you navigate custody agreements, there still can be challenges around co-parenting and balancing work-parenting responsibilities when you are a solo parent. A comprehensive divorce plan builds in these and the laundry list of other important family implications.

Finances

Here in lies another in depth topic that requires thoughtful planning.  The financial side of the divorce plan can study various options for marital property division, analyze the implications of support payments, and outline a list of “gotchas” or unexpected things you had wished you known but pop up later.  The financial side of the plan also moves through other important financial elements, such as housing transition, divorce transition budgeting, financial fear and financial psychology, and identifying engrained habits that need to be altered or eliminated.

In Conclusion

Yes, comprehensive divorce planning is involved and can take time.  That is only because divorce is arguably the most complex transition we can make.  If I could give one piece of advice to a divorcee that would be to slow-down to speed-up.  Don’t leap into divorce blindly.  Make the right investments upfront and reap the returns through the divorce approval process and beyond.

For more support with your divorce, visit the Divorce Support Center on Patreon.

Navigating Divorce with Love: Transforming Pain into Positive Choices

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Divorce is often laden with negative energy, a turbulent time when past choices and experiences heavily influence our present decisions. Is a divorce with love possible? Yes, there is a guiding principle that can help us navigate this challenging period with grace and positivity: asking ourselves, “What would love do now?” This question, introduced to me by a mentor during my own divorce, serves as a beacon, illuminating the path through every decision, no matter how significant or trivial.

The Vital Question: “What Would Love Do Now?”

Years have passed since I first encountered this question, yet its relevance has only grown. Initially, I struggled to consistently align my actions with this principle, overwhelmed by the emotional turmoil of divorce. With time and self-reflection, it became clearer. The struggle lay in the negative energy inherent in separation—the act of breaking sacred vows and intentions felt intrinsically unloving.

Yet, the paradox is that such intense separation often necessitates negative energy. Losing someone dear is inherently painful, more so when they are at their best. Unconsciously, we harness this negativity to navigate the separation. However, the critical error is allowing this negative energy to overshadow the guiding question: “What would love do now?” Love must act as a counterbalance, preventing a spiral into more negativity, a cycle seen in countless divorces.

Embracing Love in Non-Traditional Ways

It’s natural to resist the notion of love in the midst of divorce. Thoughts like, “But she is the one leaving me,” or “How can I love him when he treats me terribly?” are common. Yet, the call to love is not about traditional romantic love for your ex-spouse. It’s about a broader, more encompassing love—one that includes kindness towards others and gentleness towards yourself. It might manifest as gratitude for what you still have, curiosity in learning from the challenge, or a kind word even in difficult times.

Shedding the Divorce Backpack

Too often, people drag their past into their divorce like a heavy backpack filled with old grievances, injustices, and unforgiveness. This metaphorical backpack is burdened with everything that went wrong in the relationship. When faced with choices during the divorce, instead of asking, “What would love do?” they reach into this backpack, finding only solutions rooted in past pain.

These past-driven solutions do not facilitate separation; they entrench individuals in their misery, creating a self-imposed prison of pain and resentment. True freedom and healing come from practicing forgiveness and releasing the emotional baggage.

The Power of Blanket Forgiveness

Consider the example of someone who demanded a heartfelt apology for a past wrong, unable to move forward without it. While the spouse had apologized, it lacked the sincerity they sought. This highlights the need for blanket forgiveness—a conscious decision to forgive without conditions.

Forgiveness involves recognizing your own missteps, empathizing with the other person’s perspective, and committing to causing no further harm. It’s a powerful act of love that liberates both parties, allowing for genuine healing and new beginnings.

Conclusion

Divorce, while painful, can be a profound journey of personal growth and transformation. By consistently asking, “What would love do now?” you can navigate the complexities of separation with a positive, loving mindset. This approach not only helps in making better choices but also fosters a sense of peace and forgiveness, paving the way for a brighter future. Remember, love is not just an emotion but a series of intentional actions that can heal wounds and create a foundation for a new, fulfilling life.

Unlocking Peace: How Personalized Divorce Support Can Ease Your Transition

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Divorce can be a daunting journey, fraught with uncertainties and fears. It’s natural to experience anxiety when facing such a significant life change. However, these fears often stem from unaddressed weaknesses within ourselves, which can hinder our ability to navigate the process effectively. But fear not, as there are ways to confront and overcome these challenges with the help of personalized divorce support and specialized divorce coaching.

Understanding Divorce Fear

Divorce fear is like a weak spot we’ve ignored or avoided dealing with. These weak spots represent opportunities for growth and transformation. By addressing them, we can transition from a state of pent-up fear to one of greater peace and empowerment.

The Illusion of Security

Much of our fear surrounding divorce arises from our attachment to material possessions and societal constructs of certainty and safety. We may believe we own things like houses or retirement plans, but in reality, they are merely constructs designed to provide psychological security. However, they can be taken away by divorce, legal matters, or unforeseen events like natural disasters or illness.

Transitioning to Ease and Flow

The key to overcoming divorce fear lies in a combination of action-based faith and supernatural faith. Action-based faith involves taking proactive steps to address our underlying fears and prevent negative outcomes. However, if these outcomes do occur, supernatural faith serves as our guiding light, helping us trust in the process and believe in our ability to overcome any obstacle.

The Blend of Action and Belief

During the divorce transition, it’s essential to blend these two forms of faith. We must identify actionable steps to address our fears while cultivating a belief in our own skills, talents, and experiences to navigate the challenges ahead. This blend of action and belief is what propels us forward and allows us to trust that alignment will occur.

The Role of Personalized Divorce Support

This is where personalized divorce support and specialized divorce coaching come into play. A divorce transition expert can help you identify your weak spots, develop actionable strategies to address them, and provide the support and guidance you need to navigate the process with confidence and ease. By working with a specialized coach, you can unlock a sense of peace and empowerment as you transition through divorce.

In conclusion, divorce fear is a natural part of the process, but it doesn’t have to control us. With the right support and guidance, we can confront our fears, embrace change, and emerge stronger on the other side. Personalized divorce support and specialized divorce coaching offer valuable tools and resources to help us navigate this challenging journey and find peace amidst the chaos.

3 Keys to Start Your Divorce Right

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It takes courage to ask for a divorce.  You want to start your divorce right, but are not sure how. Commonly,  many divorcees dive right in before they change their minds. As a result, they make key mistakes.  

You are sitting in a marriage that is simply not working.  It’s not “broken,” a “failure,” or any other label that conjures shame. The relationship has transformed in such a way that it’s no longer serving the couple.  It’s as simple as that.  Yet, many divorcees use similar defining words as they end their marriage.  These words invigorate the divorce stereotype, which misguides their initial steps as they start the process.

Broaching a divorce with your spouse takes tremendous courage, especially if there is pent-up frustration and toxicity.  Common responses are disbelief, anger, loss of trust, and fear as the family’s status shifts from what’s familiar to a landscape completely unfamiliar.  Misperception, and a tendency to argue against the truth, quickly bring one’s protection instincts to the forefront.  This is why many couples, in marriage counseling quickly drop into hiring family lawyers as the next step.  They move from putting energy towards finding a successful outcome to a structure that is not designed to produce a cohesive resolve.

It doesn’t need to be this way.  This can’t be the norm because not only do families carry the ramifications of a botched divorce, but so too do their communities.  Yes, there is a legal process necessary to end your marriage contract. But this does not mean the swirling nature of this process should, by default, impede upon the best possible outcome each person truly wants for themselves and their children.

As I’ve coached divorcees, I have come to realize successful divorces are those that take the right steps upfront.  Here are three keys to starting a divorce off on the right path.

First: Vow to Do No Further Harm

Marriages begin with sacred vows.  They are sacred not only because they are spoken, often in front of family, friends, and clergy, but because these intentions formulate dreams of what can be.  The dreams are sacred intentions for each other, children, and a future on which the couple dedicates themselves.

When a marriage begins not to work in a way that serves the couple, it becomes scary to enter into the abyss called divorce. However, isn’t it possible to establish a new vow – a new intention?  Speaking a vow at the end of their marriage sets the couple on a path to the divorce outcome they truly want.

It takes a lot of courage to face divorce with integrity and without blame and judgment.  Yet, isn’t the alternative route worse?  If couples recognize the marriage is simply not working, and begin telling the truth about the marriage and what’s transpired, they can speak a new vow – “The Vow to Do No Further Harm.”  It recognizes harm was done, but then lays the groundwork for possibility and hope, just as did the vows spoken at the marriage ceremony.  It brings different energy so they can uncouple in the best way possible.

Second: Create a Platform to Hear Shared Intentions

Just as marriage vows are spoken by each party, so too must their intentions.  “The Vow to Do No Further Harm” is positioned for success when each person has a platform to speak their shared intentions to the other.

I’ve worked with couples whose financial life is so intertwined, like couples who own a business together, or those who have major shared real estate interests, that they are keenly aware the family court is not the best place to work out their future.  These couples are almost forced to work together.  I start the divorce coaching by asking them to outline the intentions they have for themselves, their spouse, their children, their employees, and their friends.  This initial dialogue allows them to see the similarity of their intentions.

The nature of divorce brings a lot of distractions.  A true understanding of shared intentions is the foundation upon which the couple co-creates their future. It allows them to reset their focus, rather than aimlessly arguing.

Third: Know When to Pause

I have yet to find a Family Court that seeks to learn about all the unique inner workings happening within a relationship and then alters its process so it better aligns with the couple’s situation.  No! The Family Court operates off established civil procedure, and every couple is forced to go through it.  Some cases move through easily, while others are square pegs slamming into round holes. Two factors that can quickly knock a divorce off the right path are high contentiousness and financial complexity.

Every divorce maintains a layer of unavoidable costs.  Some unavoidable time, energy, and money are necessary to complete the divorce process.  However, when couples have high degrees of unresolved contentiousness, the legal process can quickly shift the effects beyond the unavoidable costs to compound avoidable costs of time, energy, money, and health.  These four forms of prosperity are the keys to rebuilding one’s life.  Yet, they are eroded by the toxicity around divorce.

Divorce problems do not go away once the judge stamps the decree final.  Marriages that entered divorce with unresolved contentiousness find the contentiousness compounds and lasts well after the court has made its final ruling.  By admitting that your relationship is at its weakest, and pausing so you can both calm the contentiousness, you can save unnecessary costs to you and your family.

The other reason to pause is if your marriage has a high degree of financial complexity.  Lawyers, mediators, and judges are not trained financial experts.  They do not hold financial certifications, take continuing education, or stay fully up to date on all new financial rules and protocols.  Additionally, family court decisions do not always supersede tax rules, retirement plan administrator requirements, insurance contracts, debt agreements, and other key financial constraints.

The family court is simply looking to solve a division problem presented to it in the form of a case.  Since the court can make these decisions without first consulting other licensed professionals, financial mistakes can cost much more than the hourly fees you paid to professionals who crafted case arguments and proposals.  It’s in both party’s best interests to become fully informed about the financial side of their marriage so they can be in a position of strength to make smart financial decisions.

In summary, the keys to successful divorce depend greatly on stepping back, assessing your situation, and choosing unconventional steps, rather than diving into the “traditional” approach to divorce.  As I look at the issues facing my parents as they divorced over 40 years ago to the challenges divorcees face today, I can honestly say success lies in doing what might seem difficult upfront but winds up creating so much ease as the process unfolds.  Let’s face it!  The divorce industry has not received “blue ribbons” for the outstanding progress it’s made over the last few decades.

What Do Businesses Gain from Proactively Managing Divorce Risk

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Divorce poses a significant systemic risk to businesses, akin to a pandemic in its scope. Wise investments in prevention and mitigation can drastically lower the costs associated with divorce for businesses. Divorce impacts not just the family unit but also ripples through to employers, affecting time, energy, money, and health as employees navigate difficult divorce transitions.  Managing divorce risk is paramount to long-term success.

If businesses invest in divorce risk management as they do with other systemic risks like cybersecurity, they can reduce an inherent cost impacting their bottom line year after year. This proactive approach requires the right strategies and players. Here are some key gains for businesses:

Recapturing Lost Productivity

As you consider the importance of managing divorce risk, consider that employees are already distracted by social media, news, online shopping, and messaging, which impact productivity. Divorce adds a more intense layer of distraction through legal demands, frequent communication, family scheduling issues, household transitions, toxic ex-spouses, and ongoing conversations with co-workers.

These distractions affect bottom-line productivity. For instance, consider a $50,000 salaried employee who becomes 25% less productive. This employee ideally contributes two to three times their salary to the bottom line, so their economic contribution is $100,000 to $150,000. A 25% distraction each month equates to a substantial loss, and these distractions can persist long after the divorce is finalized.

Reducing Strain on Senior Leaders and Key Producers

Senior leaders and key producers present a greater risk than rank-and-file employees, as their divorce cases often involve contentious legal battles. Their job and perks can become pawns in divorce negotiations, such as when a spouse fights for custody, knowing the other’s job demands strain their ability to balance work and family.

Supporting these senior producers is vital because they carry experience, internal and external relationship responsibilities, and subject-matter expertise crucial to the organization’s success. They also influence daily performance across teams.

Lowering Resignations

A study by Philip N. Cohen, a Sociologist at the University of Maryland, analyzed job turnover and divorce over 26 years. His findings show a potential job turnover probability for divorcees ranging from 12% to as high as 20%, with a median turnover rate of about 16% per year. This means businesses could lose one out of every five to six divorcing employees, which is costly given the expense of hiring, onboarding, and training new employees.

Divorcees often struggle to manage work demands alongside solo parenting, face mounting financial obligations, and undergo deep reflection about their priorities, leading to higher resignation rates. All these factors highlight the importance of managing divorce risk.

Reducing Absenteeism and Presenteeism

The demands of divorce place a direct strain on time and energy. The legal timeline of divorce does not wait for key work projects to finish, forcing employees to step away from work to tackle their divorce tasks.

Contentious divorces increase uncertainty and fear as employees await key decisions that can take weeks or months. Without addressing patterns of negative rumination, employees may be present at work but not engaged in their tasks. Effective coaching helps employees prioritize important tasks and manage rumination, keeping their attention focused on the present.

Increasing Loyalty

A recent Gallup poll shows that approximately 25% of employees believe their employer cares about their overall well-being. Of those employees, 69% are less likely to look for a new position. Leaders who support employees through difficult times, such as divorce, make a direct investment in loyalty.

Philip N. Cohen’s research indicates that 2.5% of a workforce may be going through a divorce at any given time. This number increases when considering employees in “invisible divorces” (those who have yet to separate) and those still struggling post-divorce.  This further emphasizes the importance of managing divorce risk.

Conclusion

Employers need to recognize the stealth costs of divorce on their business. An Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is a great starting point, but it should not be limited to legal and therapy connections. Instead, invest in divorce experts who can train staff and leadership. This education and support reduce avoidable costs of time, energy, money, and health, ultimately lowering the risk of divorce-related costs impacting the employer and the employee’s family unit.

Cost of Divorce on Businesses

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Since California instituted the no-fault divorce law in 1969, divorce rates have steadily increased. While it’s debatable whether the number of divorces would have remained steady without this law, the nationwide adoption of no-fault divorce laws has coincided with divorce rates reaching pandemic levels. There is a substantial cost of divorce on businesses.

Today, the average divorce rate for first marriages is around 50%, and it jumps to 67% for second marriages. These rates, combined with the unmeasured “invisible divorce rate”—the number of couples who are married but disengaged and living in unhealthy relationships—highlight the significant impact of marital issues on businesses.

The Harvard Business Review estimates that divorce costs US businesses around $150 billion annually. Despite this, businesses are failing to take proactive steps to quantify and manage this stealth risk. Unlike other risks that can be transferred to insurance carriers, businesses have no option but to self-insure against divorce risk. Unfortunately, the landscape of self-insurance tools and resources for this issue is sparse.

The Growing Divorce Industry

As the cost of divorce on businesses continue to rise, so too does the divorce divorce industry, with some estimates valuing it at $28 billion per year and a national average cost of $20,000 per divorcing couple. The Institute of Divorce Financial Analysts reports that approximately 50% of divorces are “pro se” divorces, which do not involve litigation. However, divorces with high contentiousness and financial complexity are more likely to incur greater litigation expenses. This suggests that about 25% of all marriages are likely to end in litigation.

 

The Core Problem

The core problem lies in the mismatch between a divorce case’s characteristics and the family court’s process for legally ending a marriage. Family courts follow standard procedures that work well for amicable exits but are not effective for highly contentious couples or those with complex financial situations. These cases often result in “avoidable costs” on top of the baseline “unavoidable costs” inherent in every divorce.

Avoidable costs include not just money but also time, energy, and health. These factors directly impact a business’s bottom line through productivity declines, increased absenteeism and presenteeism, resignations, quality and safety issues, and the spread of stress to other employees.

The Financial Stress of Divorce

In addition to the direct costs, there is a rise in the employee’s financial stress. PricewaterhouseCoopers conducts an annual financial wellness survey (2023 linked) that routinely reveals financial stress as the number one stressor in families’ lives. This stress often precedes divorce and skyrockets during the process, as divorcees face increased worry about their future and a sense of loss regarding their accumulated assets.

Expanding Employee Assistance Programs

Many business leaders and human resource managers are expanding services through Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs), offering access to legal counsel and psychotherapy. However, businesses cannot guarantee that these services will reduce costs for the employee and the business. Moreover, the therapy timeline doesn’t always align with the divorce timeline, deferring the immediate need. Coupled with the delicate nature of these conversations, the potential risk management outcomes are not as effective as they could be.

Proactive Solutions

The cost of divorce on businesses should be treated in a proactive fashion as other  systemic threats, like cyber risk. They can invest in awareness training and implement support tools to prevent and mitigate the impacts of divorce. This proactive management could involve aligning with Certified Divorce Coaches who can help employees navigate the divorce process, mitigate mistakes, develop strategies, and understand both the internal and external aspects of divorce. Additionally, Certified Divorce Financial Analysts (CDFA®) professionals can help employees manage the financial complexities inherent in their divorce.

Businesses can add these offerings to their EAP or align with respected professionals. Relying solely on attorneys to provide these resources can be a mistake, as they may not offer comprehensive support.

Benefits of Proactive Management

Proactively managing divorce risk and the specific cost of divorce on businesses can help businesses reduce the impact on their bottom line. It ensures employees receive the support they need, leading to improved focus, reduced stress, and better overall outcomes during the transition.