Divorce Podcast
“A Man’s Journey Through Divorce” Podcast studies various aspects of divorce, the common challenges and pitfalls, and shares tools and strategies to help any divorcee achieve the best possible outcome they truly want.
Hosted by Steve Schleupner, Certified Divorce Coach® and Financial Planner, the podcast shares insights from someone who initially did not want to embrace the divorce and ended up allowing the challenges of divorce to help him grow.
Most Recent Episode:
Ep. 115: Taking Control of Divorce Transition Through Mediation
In this episode, we explore the transformative potential of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR), particularly mediation, in divorce proceedings. While litigation offers a formal trial, ADR methods provide couples with greater control over the process. However, success in mediation relies on proactive engagement and addressing underlying conflicts. A recent client’s story highlights common pitfalls, emphasizing the importance of thorough preparation and communication. True empowerment in divorce comes from taking responsibility for actions and decisions. By embracing mediation with commitment, individuals can shape a smoother transition and a more fulfilling post-divorce future.
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Ep. 115: Taking Control of Divorce Decisions Through Mediation
In this episode, we explore the transformative potential of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR), particularly mediation, in divorce proceedings. While litigation offers a formal trial, ADR
EP. 114: Ending with Unequal Fear
In this episode, we unravel the complexities of divorce fear and the transformative power of personalized support. Delving into the concept of weak spots, we
Ep. 113: Building Immunity to Pain
Explore the profound insights uncovered in this podcast episode as we delve into the transformative journey of healing emotional pain during divorce. Discover strategies to
Ep. 112 Making the Most Progress with the Minimal Effective Investment
In this episode, Steve challenges the instinct to rely solely on thriftiness during major life changes such as divorce, emphasizing the importance of investing in
Ep. 111: Setting Aspirations
Listen to Steve talk about the three stages of personal transition, and the transition a couple makes as they divorce. Steve talks about the importance
Ep. 110: Alternative Divorce Options
The way to a final divorce decree can follow several paths. The traditional, or socially branded, path is the path of litigation. Many have found
Ep. 109: Why is this so Friggin’ Hard?
You ask, “Why is this so friggin’ hard?” Is it? Arguing against the truth is hard. Resisting things that you wish were different is hard.
Ep. 108: Can You Make Forgiveness Your Resolution
Setting a resolution to forgive may seem daunting. In this episode, Steve simplifies the process of forgiveness and explains how it can be a resolution
Ep. 107: The Devil in Divorce
It’s easy to drift into the negative energy of divorce. Fear, doubt, worry, resentment, vengeance, and other trappings fuel the devil within. It’s these emotions
Ep 106: Finding Peace Now
The holidays are a time of gathering, joy, and peace. Those finding it hard to connect with these important parts may find that their chance
Ep. 105: Look at the Meaning You Assign to Things
In this episode, I share a poem that centers on meaning, and specifically, the meaning we attach to things or circumstances. It’s the meaning, and
Ep. 104: Cultivate the Hidden Miracle
In this episode, I share a true story about my hidden miracle as an example of how you might be hiding your own miracle cultivation.
Ep. 102: Rock Bottom
In Season 3, I share poetry that came to me during my healing process. Each poem helped me understand the complex emotions and life change
Ep. 101: Cherish Thorns
In Season 3, I share poetry that came to me during my healing process. Each poem helped me understand the complex emotions and life change
Ep. 100: Allowing Children to Divorce the Dream
The “divorce of the dream” is a process divorcees move through. However, it’s not just the couple who faces the loss of dreams. So to
Ep. 99: Things Don’t Turn Out Like You Expect…So What!
When things don’t turn out as we expect, we can either speak a version of “poor me,” or we can say a more freeing “so
Ep. 98: Giving Your Power Away
In this episode, I cover how we can easily give away our energy, otherwise known as our power, when we allow the “divorce process,” and
Ep. 97: Deserving Success
“Insuring success” is not something we can control. Living in accordance with virtues positions us to deserve success. In this episode, I provide examples of
Ep. 96: We Are What We Repeatedly Do
Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” In this episode, I share a story that
Ep. 95: Why Is Important to Separate Your Transition from the Case (Five Real Life Stories)
In this episode, I share five stories that occurred just this past week to show the divergence around what happens with divorce. They highlight the
Ep. 94: The Spiritual Flow of Money
In this episode, Steve talks about the spiritual flow of money, and how we can unintentionally block this through our thinking and actions around divorce.
Ep. 93: Moving Forward After Unfairness Hits
When unfairness hits it steals your inheritance, or your inheritance of having peace right now. Court decisions can be, and are for many, unfair. In
Ep. 92: Your Intentions & A Must Hear Case Recap
Listen to a recap of a judge’s final verdict, which affirms the importance of keeping your case out of court. Then, hear my take on
Ep. 91: Practicing Cycles of Forgiveness
Divorce tension will exist until forgiven. When it’s not forgiven, the tension turns into cycles of un-forgiveness that block one from moving beyond the divorce.
Ep. 90: Moving On From “The Taker”
Your ex-spouse might be a “taker”. Their concern might be centered on how much money they can get, custodial time they can capture, or even
Ep. 89: Divorce is Showing Where You Are Living Unauthentically
Beyond the loss of a spouse, or the loss of your retirement, sits a miracle. A miracle that lies in the stripping away of the
Ep. 88: Investing in Your Bench
In this episode, I speak to the importance of making investments in your bench, or support team, as you transition into the unfamiliar. I highlight
Ep. 87: Releasing Stored Sadness
Divorce is unlike any other life transition. The loss of dreams and identities, that were once strong, guiding attachments, bring complex emotions that are hard
Ep. 86: Money is Your Teacher
In this episode, we talk about money and it’s purpose as a teacher. Money brings out our greatest fears, yearnings, secrets, and needs. Our response
Ep. 85: Shadowboxing “Aimless Anger”
Your success with fully moving beyond divorce rests on your ability to accept the denied parts of yourself, or what psychologists call the shadow. In
Ep. 84: Dying to Your Idea of Success
Is “not ever getting married again” the only thing you learned from your divorce? There is a deeper question, possibly one that resides around the
Ep. 83: Transitioning to a New Season
Listen as I launch Season 2. The theme for Season 2 is “Beyond”. We are moving beyond divorce towards the person you want to be
Ep. 82: Be Stingy with Your Attention
Your attention is a commodity. It’s actually the most valuable commodity in my mind. It’s something that’s been up from grabs prior to your divorce
Ep. 81: Tacking Anger and Winning
Anger is a natural expression to situations that harm our body, family, and property. It’s when we allow anger toward these situations to harm our
Ep. 80: Difference Between Justice and Fairness
Philosophy works to identify differences between similar themes, like justice and fairness. We want justice and fairness in divorce. Is it possible to have both?
Ep. 79: An Unexamined Divorce is a Lost Opportunity
Divorce presents a lot of “unwelcomes”. Yet, it also presents the opportunity to truly exam your life right now. In this episode, I speak to
Ep78. Being Responsible for Setting a New Beginning
Divorce is an ending. But as with all endings, it is a new beginning. In this episode, I talk about why it’s important to start
Ep. 77: Creating Your Way Through Problems
Problems are teachers, not persecutors. Many see problems as the thing that’s breaking them. No, problems are what’s teaching where you are arguing against the
Ep. 76: Reversal of Obligation
As the main provider for your family, you willingly offered a lifestyle. At no point did you ever think one would suggest they have a
Ep. 75: How to Get Over Divorce?
It’s easy to get trapped in the divorce kaleidoscope of worry, doubt, fear, and uncertainty. In this episode, I talk about how to get over
Ep. 74: The Outcome Is What You Decide It Is
Your divorce outcome is what you decide it is. It’s as simple as that, or as hard as that. The outcome is not the swirling
Ep. 73: Letting Go of the Old
The fabric of an old life can cause you to hold onto what once was, and prevent you from allowing your new life to unfold. In
Ep. 72: Your Construct of Divorce
We approach divorce with a construct of the way things “should be”. It’s this construct that drives much of one’s behavior and reactions. In this episode, Steve
Ep. 71: New Money, Old Money, and Divorcing from a Construct
The second tier of divorce is the “divorce from dreams”. It’s divorcing from the dream around any future want. We form these constructs, often with
Ep. 70: Wanting to Know What to Do
Divorce presents things that are unfair, and threaten dreams and desire for certainty. In this episode, I share context of a real situation to help
Ep. 69: Allowing the Past to be the Cause of Your Pain
What has caused the feeling that you are feeling right now? What’s the cause of the uncomfortable circumstance you find yourself in? Is it a bad decision
Ep. 68: Best-Self Tug-o-War
It can be hard to be your best-self when presented with divorce and relationship challenges. Often the elements of toxicity make it seem like the only
Ep. 66: Biggest Obstacle to Peace
The biggest obstacle to peace is our willingness to let it go. As we face difficult people and situations, we are presented with a choice to
Ep. 65: Ending the “No for Now”
In this episode we talk about moving beyond the “no for now” posture into releasing the possibility for a “yes”. Steve shares a situation that showed
Ep. 64: Filtering Divorce Challenges Through the Spiritual Domain
Divorce will often times present complexities that can’t be solved in the mental realm. Something else is needed for you to release those areas of resistance. This
Ep. 63: When You Distort Reality
Divorce presents all sorts of situations that allows us to distort reality, and then invite anxiety, depression, and forms of panic into our now moments. In
Ep. 62: The Lie Within the “77% of Divorces Are Initiated by Women” Statistic
Many men are coming across a statistic that reads “77% of divorces are initiated by women.” This may be true when it comes to filing, but
Ep 61: Overcoming Co-Parenting Challenges
Co-Parenting doesn’t come without its challenges. It’s your ability to quickly move beyond the challenges that directly reduces the level of “suckiness” in your divorce.
Ep 60: What is Equitable is Not Always Fair
We have an innate desire for fair outcomes in life, but the legal process with divorce is not built on fairness. It’s built on equitable
Ep. 59: Stuck Deciphering Whether a Decision is Right or Not
You may be familiar with situations where you have a hard time deciding what to do – where you are unclear as to which choice
Ep 58: When FEAR Drives a Divorce Case Producing Worst Outcomes
You may have heard a divorcee share a situation where their attorney dropped the ball when handling their case. In this episode, Steve shares a
Ep 57: Perpetuating the Ending of Un-equals
In this episode, Steve talks about how the “ending of un-equals” is perpetuated during the invisible divorce phase. He shares details as to how one
Ep 56: What You Need to Know Before Starting a Divorce
In this episode, Steve talks about the importance of starting a divorce off right, and shares insight on what it takes to rebuild your new
Ep 55: What Are You Learning?
Divorce presents many areas that create stress, frustration, and discomfort. What are you learning? In this episode, Steve shares a simple process that allows you
Ep 54: Breaking Down “Suckiness”
In this episode, Steve highlights results from the compilation of “Divorce Suckiness Assessments”, and explains why certain common themes are most challenging.
Ep 53: Why the Hell Would You Get Married Again?
It’s common for divorced men, who hear of another divorced man getting re-married, to ask “Why the hell would you get married again?” In this
Ep 52: The Need for Chaos
Each of us has a unique relationship with chaos. It comes in many forms within one’s internal and external domains. In this episode, Steve talks
Ep 51: Transitioning Your Living Situation
In this episode we talk about the difficulties associated with establishing new residences as your divorce unfolds. Steve speaks to the challenges, and offers tips
Ep 50: Taking Charge of Your Spirit
Do you “Got To”, or do you “Get To”? Obligation binds our true spirit and hinders progress on any journey, let alone the transition through
Ep 49: Give Yourself Space to be Alone
The internal side of divorce presents the loss of identity. You realize you are not who you thought you were, but are unsure of who
Ep 48: Forgiveness or Punishment
The antonym of forgiveness is penalty, punishment. In this episode, Steve talks about how we can punish ourselves by being unwilling to forgive the injustice.
Ep 47: Divorce is Not the Problem. It’s a Symptom of a Problem.
The divorce process can be long, intensive, depleting, and distracting. It’s the perfect thing to steal your ability to become aware of underlying problems. In
Ep 46: Past Events, Rumination, Uncertainty, Fear, and the Unfamiliar Path
In this episode, Steve shares statistics gathered from participants who took the Divorce Suckiness Assessment, and points to areas where 70-80+ % of survey participants
Ep 45: Plaintiff-Defendant vs. Responsibility
Taking responsibility is vital during a divorce. Being 100% responsible for the role you played during the marriage enables you to respond as your best-self