The way to a final divorce decree can follow several paths.  The traditional, or socially branded, path is the path of litigation.  Many have found

You ask, “Why is this so friggin’ hard?”  Is it?  Arguing against the truth is hard.  Resisting things that you wish were different is hard. 

Setting a resolution to forgive may seem daunting.  In this episode, Steve simplifies the process of forgiveness and explains how it can be a resolution

It’s easy to drift into the negative energy of divorce. Fear, doubt, worry, resentment, vengeance, and other trappings fuel the devil within.  It’s these emotions

The holidays are a time of gathering, joy, and peace.  Those finding it hard to connect with these important parts may find that their chance

In this episode, I share a poem that centers on meaning, and specifically, the meaning we attach to things or circumstances.  It’s the meaning, and

In this episode, I share a true story about my hidden miracle as an example of how you might be hiding your own miracle cultivation. 

In Season 3, I share poetry that came to me during my healing process.  Each poem helped me understand the complex emotions and life change

In Season 3, I share poetry that came to me during my healing process.  Each poem helped me understand the complex emotions and life change

The “divorce of the dream” is a process divorcees move through.  However, it’s not just the couple who faces the loss of dreams.  So to

When things don’t turn out as we expect, we can either speak a version of “poor me,” or we can say a more freeing “so

In this episode, I cover how we can easily give away our energy, otherwise known as our power, when we allow the “divorce process,” and

“Insuring success” is not something we can control.  Living in accordance with virtues positions us to deserve success.  In this episode, I provide examples of

Listen to a recap of a judge’s final verdict, which affirms the importance of keeping your case out of court.  Then, hear my take on

Your ex-spouse might be a “taker”.  Their concern might be centered on how much money they can get, custodial time they can capture, or even

Beyond the loss of a spouse, or the loss of your retirement, sits a miracle.  A miracle that lies in the stripping away of the

In this episode, I speak to the importance of making investments in your bench, or support team, as you transition into the unfamiliar.  I highlight

Divorce is unlike any other life transition.  The loss of dreams and identities, that were once strong, guiding attachments, bring complex emotions that are hard

In this episode, we talk about money and it’s purpose as a teacher.  Money brings out our greatest fears, yearnings, secrets, and needs.  Our response

Your success with fully moving beyond divorce rests on your ability to accept the denied parts of yourself, or what psychologists call the shadow.  In

Is “not ever getting married again” the only thing you learned from your divorce? There is a deeper question, possibly one that resides around the

Divorce presents a lot of “unwelcomes”.  Yet, it also presents the opportunity to truly exam your life right now.  In this episode, I speak to

Divorce is an ending. But as with all endings, it is a new beginning.  In this episode, I talk about why it’s important to start

Problems are teachers, not persecutors.  Many see problems as the thing that’s breaking them.  No, problems are what’s teaching where you are arguing against the

As the main provider for your family, you willingly offered a lifestyle.  At no point did you ever think one would suggest they have a

It’s easy to get trapped in the divorce kaleidoscope of worry, doubt, fear, and uncertainty. In this episode, I talk about how to get over

Your divorce outcome is what you decide it is. It’s as simple as that, or as hard as that. The outcome is not the swirling

The fabric of an old life can cause you to hold onto what once was, and prevent you from allowing your new life to unfold.  In

We approach divorce with a construct of the way things “should be”.  It’s this construct that drives much of one’s behavior and reactions.  In this episode, Steve

The second tier of divorce is the “divorce from dreams”.  It’s divorcing from the dream around any future want.  We form these constructs, often with

Divorce presents things that are unfair, and threaten dreams and desire for certainty.  In this episode, I share context of a real situation to help

What has caused the feeling that you are feeling right now?  What’s the cause of the uncomfortable circumstance you find yourself in?  Is it a bad decision

It can be hard to be your best-self when presented with divorce and relationship challenges.  Often the elements of toxicity make it seem like the only

In this episode, I speak to the role faith plays in divorce.

The biggest obstacle to peace is our willingness to let it go.  As we face difficult people and situations, we are presented with a choice to

In this episode we talk about moving beyond the “no for now” posture into releasing the possibility for a “yes”.  Steve shares a situation that showed

Divorce will often times present complexities that can’t be solved in the mental realm.   Something else is needed for you to release those areas of resistance.  This

Divorce presents all sorts of situations that allows us to distort reality, and then invite anxiety, depression, and forms of panic into our now moments.  In

Many men are coming across a statistic that reads “77% of divorces are initiated by women.”  This may be true when it comes to filing, but

Co-Parenting doesn’t come without its challenges.  It’s your ability to quickly move beyond the challenges that directly reduces the level of “suckiness” in your divorce. 

We have an innate desire for fair outcomes in life, but the legal process with divorce is not built on fairness.  It’s built on equitable

You may be familiar with situations where you have a hard time deciding what to do – where you are unclear as to which choice

You may have heard a divorcee share a situation where their attorney dropped the ball when handling their case. In this episode, Steve shares a

In this episode, Steve talks about how the “ending of un-equals” is perpetuated during the invisible divorce phase.  He shares details as to how one

In this episode, Steve talks about the importance of starting a divorce off right, and shares insight on what it takes to rebuild your new

Divorce presents many areas that create stress, frustration, and discomfort.  What are you learning?  In this episode, Steve shares a simple process that allows you

In this episode, Steve highlights results from the compilation of “Divorce Suckiness Assessments”, and explains why certain common themes are most challenging.

It’s common for divorced men, who hear of another divorced man getting re-married, to ask “Why the hell would you get married again?”  In this

Each of us has a unique relationship with chaos.  It comes in many forms within one’s internal and external domains.  In this episode, Steve talks

In this episode we talk about the difficulties associated with establishing new residences as your divorce unfolds.  Steve speaks to the challenges, and offers tips

Do you “Got To”, or do you “Get To”?  Obligation binds our true spirit and hinders progress on any journey, let alone the transition through

The internal side of divorce presents the loss of identity.  You realize you are not who you thought you were, but are unsure of who

The antonym of forgiveness is penalty, punishment. In this episode, Steve talks about how we can punish ourselves by being unwilling to forgive the injustice. 

The divorce process can be long, intensive, depleting, and distracting.  It’s the perfect thing to steal your ability to become aware of underlying problems.  In

In this episode, Steve shares statistics gathered from participants who took the Divorce Suckiness Assessment, and points to areas where 70-80+ % of survey participants

Taking responsibility is vital during a divorce.  Being 100% responsible for the role you played during the marriage enables you to respond as your best-self